It wasn’t so long ago that all I wanted for Mother’s Day was to not have to do motherly things.
I wanted to sleep in, to have a long soak in the tub, go for a walk, read a book without pictures in it, and not have to clean up the bodily fluids of any person all day.
That is no longer what I want.
I’m looking at very few Mother’s Days left when I can say that all of my family will be home with me. I increasingly find that I want to spend my time with them. Yes, I still want to go on a walk, but I want my boy with me. I want to read more books to the kids (will they still let me?). I want to take care of my kids, but they are getting so independent.
It wasn’t so very long ago that James was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes and I did everything for him. He could hardly read the numbers on his glucometer, let alone interpret what they meant. I had to lock his pump so he couldn’t accidentally give himself insulin. But little by little, that all changed. He could read the numbers, then test his own blood sugar, operate his pump, and count his own carbs.
And in a lot of ways it is so great. He’s very independent, which — completely aside from being easier for me — is so exactly what is needed for a child who will be leaving the nest in a little more than a year from now.
But although he’s doing great and is on track to be able to go and live that great life he’s so excited about… I also know that he’s got his own long road ahead of him. I want to hold on to him and teach him every little thing that I can to prepare him for real life.
Where did all the time go?
Whether you’re in the throes of it all and badly need a break, or if you find yourself wanting to hold on to every moment left, may you have a wonderful Mother’s Day celebrating the tremendous job of parenting a child with type 1 diabetes. It is not for the faint of heart!
Disclaimer: The experiences and suggestions recounted in these articles are not intended as medical advice, and they are not necessarily the “typical” experiences of families with a child who has type 1 diabetes. These situations are unique to the families depicted. Families should check with their healthcare professionals regarding the treatment of type 1 diabetes and the frequency of blood glucose monitoring. Jen and Kim are real moms of kids with type 1 diabetes and have been compensated for their contributions to this site.