Is it just me, or does Mother’s Day come with a mixed bag of emotions? I’m so grateful to be a mom, and I love my husband and kids more than anything in the world. I love the flowers from my husband, the notes and cards from my big kids, and the macaroni necklaces and potted flowers from my little ones. I love celebrating my own mom and my mother-in-law, because they happen to really be the best moms ever.
Meanwhile, like most moms, I question my own parenting all the time. Am I doing everything right? Do my kids have the attention that they need? Am I teaching them all that they need to know? Am I helping them develop good self-esteem? Are they in enough sports? Are they in too many? Did they floss their teeth this morning? Are Kaitlyn’s blood sugar numbers in range? Am I being the Best Mom Ever?
Not only do we question ourselves, but we get constant reminders of how we can be doing better. It’s like someone hands us a bright, shiny Best Mom Ever badge at birth, and everything that goes wrong after that is a big black mark smeared across the front of it. Just the other day, I took my kids to their dental checkup, and two of the five kids had cavities to fill. A giant black mark of mom guilt on my shiny badge.
The very next day, I got a note from the teacher telling me that my son had a really rough day at school and would I “please talk to him about his behavior.” Another black smear on my mom badge.
A high A1C result at Kaitlyn’s quarterly type 1 diabetes appointment. Big black mark.
High blood sugar numbers. More black marks.
Pretty soon, my pretty gold mom badge is grimy and black. Is it even okay to show it off now? Can I reveal my imperfections?
With this type of thinking, we have moms everywhere walking around afraid to show off their badges — afraid to hold their heads up high and be the best moms that they can be. We do our best to uplift and encourage the moms in our lives, especially on Mother’s Day, but I believe that each of us must find our own way to find satisfaction and self-worth from within.
It does no good to dwell on the negative or focus only on the failures. Let’s instead focus on the good things in our lives — the in-range blood sugar days, the fixing of mistakes, the happy smiles on our kids’ faces. Give yourself the best Mother’s Day present and shine up that mom badge. Hold your head up high! You are enough! You are the Best Mom Ever!
Disclaimer: The experiences and suggestions recounted in these articles are not intended as medical advice, and they are not necessarily the “typical” experiences of families with a child who has type 1 diabetes. These situations are unique to the families depicted. Families should check with their healthcare professionals regarding the treatment of type 1 diabetes and the frequency of blood glucose monitoring. Jen and Kim are real moms of kids with type 1 diabetes and have been compensated for their contributions to this site.